{"id":1179,"date":"2023-10-08T18:27:23","date_gmt":"2023-10-08T15:27:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/salomolim.com\/?p=1179"},"modified":"2023-10-12T13:28:51","modified_gmt":"2023-10-12T10:28:51","slug":"hogyan-fognak-boldogulni-a-vilagban","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/?p=1179","title":{"rendered":"Hogyan fognak boldogulni a vil\u00e1gban"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1179\" class=\"elementor elementor-1179\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9b5836d elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9b5836d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c66208e\" data-id=\"c66208e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9740ef9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"9740ef9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cdb5dd3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"cdb5dd3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-03f730b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"03f730b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Hogyan fognak boldogulni a vil\u00e1gban\n<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-13fd3bb elementor-widget-divider--view-line_text elementor-widget-divider--element-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"13fd3bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider__text elementor-divider__element\">\n\t\t\t\tMit szeretn\u00e9nk el\u00e9rni a gyermekeinkkel?\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1ca9b81 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"1ca9b81\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-6370fad elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6370fad\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-0623aaf\" data-id=\"0623aaf\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-73f15e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"73f15e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\/Tzur Kati\/<\/p><div class=\"wpb_text_column wpb_content_element \"><div class=\"wpb_wrapper\"><p><strong>\u201cHa nem tudjuk hova haj\u00f3zunk, nincs olyan sz\u00e9l ami oda vinne minket! \u201c \u2013\u00a0<\/strong>Az id\u00e9zett mondatot Ami Ayalont\u00f3l, a magyar sz\u00e1rmaz\u00e1s\u00fa politikust\u00f3l \u00e9s a haditenger\u00e9szet volt f\u0151parancsnok\u00e1t\u00f3l olvastam.<\/p><p>A tengerhez sajnos nem \u00e9rtek, de biztosra veszem, hogy a f\u0151parancsnok, aki az izraeli titkosszolg\u00e1lat vezet\u0151je \u00e9s parlamenti k\u00e9pvisel\u0151 is volt, szint\u00e9n sz\u00e9lesebb \u00e9rtelemben vette a metaf\u00f3r\u00e1t.<\/p><p>Amihez viszont \u00e9rtek: sz\u00fcl\u0151i-nevel\u00e9si tan\u00e1csot adni legf\u0151k\u00e9ppen Adler te\u00f3ri\u00e1ja szerint. Alfred Adler osztr\u00e1k pszichi\u00e1ter Freud k\u00f6vet\u0151je, tan\u00edtv\u00e1nya volt. K\u00e9s\u0151bb megalkotta saj\u00e1t elm\u00e9let\u00e9t, az individu\u00e1lpszichol\u00f3gi\u00e1t.<\/p><p>Te\u00f3ri\u00e1j\u00e1nak egyik alap \u00e1ll\u00edt\u00e1sa, hogy az ember gondolkod\u00f3 l\u00e9ny, akinek minden tett\u00e9t a c\u00e9ljai motiv\u00e1lj\u00e1k. B\u00e1rmit csin\u00e1lunk, gondolunk, az\u00e9rt tesz\u00fck, hogy a legfontosabb c\u00e9ljaink el\u00e9r\u00e9s\u00e9hez k\u00f6zeledj\u00fcnk. Ezek a c\u00e9lok nem mindig kimondottak vagy ak\u00e1r tudatosak. De meghat\u00e1rozz\u00e1k szem\u00e9lyis\u00e9g\u00fcnk alakul\u00e1s\u00e1t \u00e9s viselked\u00e9s\u00fcnket.<\/p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1842\" src=\"https:\/\/salom-olim.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Taking-IELTS-Exam-e1572544782776.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"546\" srcset=\"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Taking-IELTS-Exam-e1572544782776.jpg 641w, https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Taking-IELTS-Exam-e1572544782776-275x300.jpg 275w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><p><strong>Adler szerint nem az a helyes k\u00e9rd\u00e9s, hogy mi az oka cselekedeteinknek, hanem hogy mit szeretn\u00e9nk el\u00e9rni vel\u00fck.<\/strong><\/p><p>Sz\u00fcl\u0151k\u00e9nt, \u00e9s sz\u00fcl\u0151kkel dolgoz\u00f3 tan\u00e1csad\u00f3k\u00e9nt is legink\u00e1bb az al\u00e1bbi k\u00e9rd\u00e9sekre keresem a v\u00e1laszt:<\/p><ul><li><strong>Mit szeretn\u00e9nk el\u00e9rni a gyermekeinkkel?<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Milyen feln\u0151ttnek szeretn\u00e9nk \u0151ket l\u00e1tni?<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>K\u00e9pzelj\u00fck el \u0151ket 10-15-25 \u00e9v m\u00falva. Milyen tulajdons\u00e1gaik, k\u00e9pess\u00e9geik lesznek?<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Hogy fognak boldogulni a vil\u00e1gban?<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>P\u00e1rkapcsolatban, munkahelyen, bar\u00e1tokkal?<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Nek\u00fcnk milyen kapcsolatunk lesz vel\u00fck?<\/strong><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>T\u00e1rsadalmi felel\u0151s\u00e9g\u00fcnk is van: Milyennek szeretn\u00e9nk a j\u00f6v\u0151 nemzed\u00e9k\u00e9t? Milyen k\u00f6vetkez\u0151 gener\u00e1ci\u00f3t szeretn\u00e9nk hagyni magunk ut\u00e1n?<\/p><p>A c\u00e9lunk sokf\u00e9le lehet, temperamentumunkt\u00f3l, v\u00e1gyainkt\u00f3l \u00e9s az \u00e1ltalunk meg\u00e9lt \u00e9lm\u00e9nyekt\u0151l f\u00fcgg. De az k\u00f6z\u00f6s hogy mindannyian szeretn\u00e9nk megval\u00f3sitani a gyerekeinkhez f\u00fcz\u0151d\u0151 v\u00e1gyainkat, rem\u00e9nyeinket. Ezek a v\u00e1gyaink az alapvet\u00f6 \u00e9rt\u00e9krendszer\u00fcnkb\u0151l keletkeznek. Abb\u00f3l hogy mit tartunk fontosnak, miben hisz\u00fcnk. Ha tudjuk a v\u00e1laszokat\u00a0 ezekre a k\u00e9rd\u00e9sekre, k\u00f6nnyebb lesz keresni az utat, az eszk\u00f6z\u00f6ket a c\u00e9lunk el\u00e9r\u00e9s\u00e9re.<\/p><p><strong>Vajon pont az a feln\u0151tt lesz a gyermekb\u0151l akit meg\u00e1lmodtunk? &#8211; Biztos nem!<\/strong><\/p><p>A gyerek szubjekt\u00edv l\u00e9ny. Saj\u00e1t\u00a0 temperamentuma, v\u00e1gyai \u00e9s az \u00e1ltala meg\u00e9lt \u00e9lm\u00e9nyek befoly\u00e1solj\u00e1k fejl\u0151d\u00e9s\u00e9t, szem\u00e9lyis\u00e9g\u00e9nek alakul\u00e1s\u00e1t . Mi, a sz\u00fclei, nem v\u00e1lasztjuk ki az utat amit be fog j\u00e1rni. De a nevel\u00e9s\u00fcnkkel, viselked\u00e9s\u00fcnkel, p\u00e9ldamutat\u00e1sunkkal \u00e9s a kapcsolattal amit kialakitunk vele, \u00f3ri\u00e1si hat\u00e1ssal vagyunk r\u00e1.<\/p><p>Ez\u00e9rt aj\u00e1nlom mindannyiunknak, \u00e1lljunk meg n\u00e9ha a rohan\u00f3 h\u00e9tk\u00f6znapokban. \u00c9s gondoljuk v\u00e9gig, milyennek szeretn\u00e9nk l\u00e1tni a gyermekeket mikor nagyok lesznek. \u00c9s vajon j\u00f3 ir\u00e1nyba korm\u00e1nyozunk? Soha nem k\u00e9s\u0151 megv\u00e1ltoztatni az \u00fatvonalat, vagy elkapni egy m\u00e1sik szelet ami k\u00f6zelebb vihet minket terveinkhez.<\/p><p>Az Adler \u2013 te\u00f3ria szerint minden sz\u00fcl\u0151 els\u0151dleges c\u00e9lja \u00f6nn\u00e1ll\u00f3, felel\u0151s\u00e9gteljes es \u00f6nmag\u00e1ban b\u00edz\u00f3 gyerek nevel\u00e9se.<\/p><p>Ti milyen feln\u0151ttk\u00e9nt l\u00e1tn\u00e1tok szivesen a gyerekeiteket?<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-53ed444 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"53ed444\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hogyan fognak boldogulni a vil\u00e1gban Mit szeretn\u00e9nk el\u00e9rni a gyermekeinkkel? \/Tzur Kati\/ \u201cHa nem tudjuk hova haj\u00f3zunk, nincs olyan sz\u00e9l ami oda vinne minket! \u201c \u2013\u00a0Az id\u00e9zett mondatot Ami Ayalont\u00f3l, a magyar sz\u00e1rmaz\u00e1s\u00fa politikust\u00f3l \u00e9s a haditenger\u00e9szet volt f\u0151parancsnok\u00e1t\u00f3l olvastam. A tengerhez sajnos nem \u00e9rtek, de biztosra veszem, hogy a f\u0151parancsnok, aki az izraeli titkosszolg\u00e1lat [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"elementor_header_footer","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1179","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mispohe"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1179","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1179"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1179\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1845,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1179\/revisions\/1845"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1179"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1179"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salomhaverim.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1179"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}